Release Perfect and Embrace Good Enough
Each of us has our own gifts and abilities. We also have our own challenges and things that we struggle with. But are you holding yourself back from doing things that would bring you joy because you think you can’t be good at it? Or are you attaching too much importance to being perfect at what you do? Release the idea that everything you do must be perfect and embrace the idea that often, good enough will do. Constantly striving to be perfect can be exhausting and it places false limits on what you can achieve. Striving for perfect may be stopping you from completing something. Perfectionism can stop you from experiencing the feeling of satisfaction, and it may rob you of the ability to feel peace with who you are and what you do. Release perfect and begin accepting that you are more than good enough in this moment.
Does the need for perfect hold you back?
As a teenager, I fell in love with calligraphy. I find it meditative, and I enjoy exploring the different coloured inks and pens and admiring other calligraphers work. I may never be able to write as beautifully as others, but I won’t let that stop me. If I looked at my calligraphy through a perfectionist lens I would stop. However, if I stop, I will miss out on all of the enjoyment it brings me and I wouldn’t have the opportunity to improve. Many of my clients have stopped being creative. Some have told me that they stopped doing what they love and enjoy because they didn’t have the time. But many stopped because they “weren’t good enough”. Their perception was that unless it was perfect, or they believed they could not achieve perfect it was a waste of time. Pursuing perfect has stopped them from doing what they enjoy. Embrace doing something for the joy of doing it and allow it to be good enough. Celebrate what you do and all that you create.
Are you comparing yourself to others?
Are you concerned what others will think or are you comparing yourself to others? Stop comparing your life to how other people live; your life doesn’t have to look like everyone else’s. Your achievements are yours, and how boring would life be if we were all the same. The truth is that you may be missing out on something that could be wonderful and rewarding. You may hold yourself back, procrastinate, perhaps giving up before you begin. You are giving up on yourself without finding out what you are capable of. You are missing out on the joy of learning, experiencing, and growing. Acknowledge when you have done your best and embrace good enough.
Is there something you would like to do, but you won’t try because you believe you will never be perfect at it like others? In the many years that I have taught yoga, I have lost count of the people who told me “I would like to try yoga, but I’m not flexible enough”. Yoga has nothing to do with being flexible, but many look at images on social media and comparison stops them in their tracks. Yoga has something for everyone, regardless of age or body type. Many of the images on social media have little to do with the actual, real practice of yoga. Sometimes my yoga practice is curling into child’s pose or lying on the mat and other times I enjoy a more dynamic practice. I have learned to release any expectation from my practice, I have embraced good enough. I don’t compare what I do with what others do. I engage with my practice and allow others to engage with theirs.
Looking to others for inspiration, or simply the admiring the achievement of others can be motivating. But release the belief that what you do and who you are needs to look the same. No matter what it is, whether it is a physical activity, learning a new language, how to play a musical instrument, or beginning a journey to change your career, please don’t hold yourself back. Don’t wait for perfect. Don’t hold yourself back from starting because you doubt you will be perfect. Don’t stop doing something that brings you joy because you believe others are better. Embrace being a beginner, everyone must start somewhere. Often good enough, really is good enough!
Feeling indecisive because you want to make the perfect choice?
We can become paralysed when faced with making a decision. Are you stuck in a situation or putting up with something in your life because you are afraid of making the wrong choice? Wanting to make the right decision for you is a valid way to feel. However, being human means that sometimes we do get it wrong and plotting a perfect life is unrealistic. When you look back at your past choices, it may be easy to see where things went wrong. But you are looking back with the benefit of lessons and knowledge that perhaps you didn’t have at that time. We will make the best decision we can in this moment, with the current information we have. Don’t allow the fear of getting it wrong or making an imperfect choice hold you back.
If you are finding it challenging to release perfect, or if you are struggling to let go of comparing yourself to others, I invite you to book a free 30 minute consultation to discuss how I may be able to assist you.
Hypnotherapist, Counsellor, Life Coach, Yoga & Meditation Teacher
Inner Mind Therapies
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